I was having a conversation with a friend of mine the other day about the rather thorny subject of jealously.
She’s not jealous, her bloke is.

I’ve heard many opinions (mainly from women, since I have more female friends than blokes) on this subject.

Girlfriends in the past have taken my lack of jealousy to mean that I don’t care about them. They’ve reasoned that a little jealousy is a good thing, right?

I beg to differ.

Me being jealous implies that I don’t trust you.
I have far better things to do than ringing you up constantly to find out where you are, who you’re with.

The problem is, some women, due to previous relationships, consider this as normal behaviour. They expect it, means their man still wants them.

Consider this, ladies….

When you first started going out with your man, he was relaxed, he wasn’t in any way possessive or jealous.
You could get dressed up to go out with your girl friends, he was cool with that.

But with the passing or years (and maybe with the addition of a ring) he began to change.
Suddenly you had to be back by a certain time, you didn’t get glammed up any more because you know he’d disapprove, and often he’d insist on always going out with you (even if you were simply meeting friends).

The reason for all this madness?
To keep you from finding anyone else attractive.

His biggest fear is if he lets you go out without him, you may find some other guy who is better than he is.
He cannot allow that to happen.

He may even tell you repeatedly that you won’t find anyone else like him, or that no one else will put up with you.
He tells you this so often, you end up believing it.

Your confidence plummets, but you cling on to the fact that he loves you, despite his behaviour.

If any women out there read this and disagree, feel free to say so. Mine is not the final word…

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