I’m quite fortunate to have a few female friends (how else do blokes REALLY learn about women?), and if you’re a woman, there are a few things you have to take into account:
Your man is looking at PORN.
If not now, he’s done it quite happily in the past.
If you’re the kind of woman who doesn’t mind, he’ll be quite open about it. If you do mind, he’ll lie.
He’ll tell you that porn does nothing for him, it’s degrading for all the actors & actresses involved.
The biggest lie of all is that he’s got YOU – why would he need to look at porn?
These lies should be taken with the pinch of salt they deserve.
That’s like assuming your bloke will no longer masturbate because he’s going out with you.
He will. He has. Often.
Men will often look at other women.
It’s nothing personal. You could be the fittest woman on the planet, it’ll still happen. We may get caught doing it occasionally, and we’ll deny it. But we are doing it. Women do it too – they just pretend they don’t – like farting…..
If I had a pound for every woman I’ve ever heard say these words:
“But he’s TOO nice. I wish he was a little jealous, at least I’d know he cares….”
So your partner doesn’t tell you what to wear, who to hang out with, or talk to.
You find his lack of jealousy worrying, and begin to wonder if he really cares about you. After all – a little bit of controlling behaviour from him would indicate that a passionate heart beats within his chest, right?
The flip side of this argument is that you end up with a man who rings you repeatedly to see where you are, who you’re with, vets your dresses before you’re allowed out, checks your phone with alarming regularity….. Hmmm.
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